The guy I have been seeing for more than a year has PTSD from fighting in Afghanistan. He was deployed after 9/11 and returned to find his wife cheating on him. It was a long messy messy divorce, she had a restraining order placed on him and he has not seen his daughter in almost 3 years. I am absolutely crazy in love with him and have been since we met. Either that or just plain crazy.

I've been reading all I can on PTSD and am really glad to find this forum. He does go to therapy at the VA. Refuses to take meds but, I think, is coping fairly well. I need help on what my role in the relationship is. I know he needs to heal himself and there's no such thing as "fixing" him. How do I react when he explodes over stuff I see as silly? Where do I draw the line over oblivion to failing to follow through on things. :hit-boss: Or refusing to pick up the phone for days? :angry-fla When he withdraws into his cave, how long do I leave him there? Is there anything I can do when he goes through bouts of not taking care of himself?