ECF,
I've been where you are. Sometimes when I feel confused, depressed, anxious, and my mind gets caught in a loop...I have to remember that sometimes I just have to ride it out. The best action for me in those times is no action. Don't be so hard on yourself. You love her, care about her well being, and want her to get help. There is no crime in that. Yes, I know it hurts terribly and deep. Hang on and don't give up.