ya' I totally agree with trusting your gut. What I do is I like to trust my gut over everything and everyone, but not let on to what I'm doing -going with my gut.

So I'll witness and appreciate those that are indeed trustworthy, while calling to mind the fruits of their character, actions and trustworthiness and holding them in high esteem. With the folks that play games, I generally observe the petty ones, take mental notes, say nothing, and keep a safe distance. If they up the ante' and start with outright bullsh't, troublemaking, excuses or pathological lying I split and end all contact when I can.

And in another scenario:

with the bullsh't in play but minus the pathological lying, and only if there is an honest to God, unintentional and intermittent mild form of this crap occuring, in a long-standing relationship of mine, than I simply speak my mind and will listen to only what makes freakin' sense. Afterwhich, I withdraw until it all passes and then later draw closer again willing to risk my sanity in the hope that there has been great personal improvement or resolve of the bullsh't.

The type of pathology in pathological lying, I stay way clear of, like you never see me again, or wish to know I ever existed. That is some scary stuff to me and rightfully so.

Angel, regarding any relationships I suggest you listen to YOUR GUT, no one else's, because prior experience as taught me, that some of the most attractive-(intell., phys., pers.,) , charismatic people in relationship are selfishly dangerous with their own agenda in the forefront of their mind, and only their own agenda, at heart.

Angel no need expending time and energy being down on yourself, this doesn't help you. We learn through trial and error. Learn now through any error to trust YOUR GUT in relationships, and the experience won't play out or go very far, it may not ever get started again, bc you'll have both you angel and your gut, on your own side to protect you.

My best to you.

Hope