Monica, you are what you allow yourself to be, or what you tell yourself you are. That is actually the truth and factual. If a person tells themselves they will amount to nothing in life, then that is what will occur because they put in little effort, and when the going gets tough, they fall down. Easy as that. Its a lot harder to live life than it is to cope in life. When you want to live, you will, because you want it bad enough. Nobody can make you want it, nobody can tell you how to want it, only you can work that out for yourself, usually around the point when you get to enough is enough, and your decisions are often limited to life or death, then people tend to do something about it. Unfortunate it has to be that way, but that seems to be the way the human mind wants to go.