Claire, what bec said. What your getting confused in I believe I understand, because your still comparing what is said with intimacy and trust to "sex" itself, when that is not what is being said so much. We are talking about what goes on at your sub-conscious level, not conscious. Your thinking consciously about sex now, and trying to connect sex with trust, etc; when in fact its about what ever the meaning only you have at your sub-conscious level, the level of thinking you have not consciously engaged just yet, though the idea of imagery is to get the two connected. The more you think about it, the more you are on the road to engaging both senses to communicate better and release some of the real issues your brain is hiding, you are hiding.