Hi kurfbird,

Welcome to the forum. It sounds to me as though your wife is bouncing of walls at present. Is she educated on PTSD or not? Has she done anything, or doing anything to control her PTSD, ie. therapy, physicians, etc? Is she medicated?

We with PTSD often push our loved ones away because we don't know how to handle them, or cope with them and our PTSD. We often don't want our burden to become theirs, so we push everyone close away and try to deal with it all by ourselves. The facts are, that having someone to help us is what we need more than not, but we often can't see that for ourselves.

My suggestion is that you get your wife on here to chat with myself, and others here who have PTSD from being raped, as she will find some relief, education and we can give her that swift boot in the arse to push her in the right direction to get herself better, and get back her marriage.

It takes time to recover from PTSD, as there is no cure for it, but it most certainly can be learnt to be controlled, instead of PTSD doing the controlling. Get your wife on here mate, whether she wants it or not, tell her to come chat with me, as she will find people she truly can relate with, are dealing with PTSD, and those of us who have pushed past the worst and on the side where the grass is much greener, and leading fairly normal lives once again, and relationships.