Hi Jessica,

Welcome to the forum. Jessica, nothing you say will likely be right to him, especially if his PTSD is pretty out of control at present. I am a veteran, have PTSD, and have beaten it to the point of controlling it 99% of the time. It has no cure, but certainly can be controlled.

There are two things you can do for your husband to try and get him to understand what he is doing is wrong, and not what he may necessarily want for himself, but he just can't see it.

Tell him to go to http://www.battlemind.org and you both watch the video for soldiers and families. Next, when he wakes up a bit to the reality of what he is going through, tell him to come talk with me, a person who has walked the exact path he currently is, divorce and all. Force him to come chat with me on here, and he might just get a rude shock, that he is not alone, what he is suffering, he is not the first, nor what he is doing... plenty before him, including me, have walked this path from operational service, except he now has the opportunity to fix it faster that we before him did, as there is now more education, more people like myself and the members here, who are aware of what is going on, and proactively getting on top of it fast as possible.

You will have to push him to help himself, but he must want to help himself, and deep down, he most likely does want that.