Suicide is probably the hardest thing to deal with because there are so many questions revolving in ones head about wither they could have saved the person if they had done something different. Also letting of of the notion that the person might actually return is very hard. I've seen a few suicides in my life and each one is hard to deal with. I remember one of my friend's father shot himself in the basement and my last memory of her was her sitting on the stairs awaiting for him to come back. Just last year I was helping out a pair of sisters and the youngest took her life. It was very hard and I still find myself thinking of them. The oldest sister refused to pack up any of her sisters things for months until she noticed her little boy was sitting in the room awaiting his aunt to return. After 3 month she packed up the girl's room for the sake of her little boy, but it hurt her dearly doing just that.

I think some people need to feel that the person will return to them and need time to realize the person is not coming back before they can cope with life again. Leaving things as they are is sometimes a way to remember things as they were. I've heard of families losing children and never changing the bedroom until years down the road. It seems to be a normal part of grieving. The only time to really worry is when their normal routes in life get effected by the loss, not going to work or school and the like. Give them some time and see how they are in a month or so. One never knows how quickly one will recover.

Anyways, Sorry to not give much advise.

jaa ne

Kat