Hey,
I guess I just wanted to clarify a little of what Nath said..
I think the reason Nath is posting the money problem on here is because my PTSD does affect us financially. At times, I become so unable to cook or leave the house that we get take out that we can't really afford, or we rent movies that will cheer us up and stuff like that. We have a lot of credit card debt from these sorts of things, you know, patch up jobs to keep us sane for another day. Also, I needed a lot of maintenance last year, as I had been living like a uni student for such a long time, and hadn't even been to see a dentist for years. I needed to get some dental work done, and that costs a fair bit. I needed new clothes after I got depressed and put on heaps of weight, as none of my old clothes fit me anymore. So, of course, we went to the credit cards.. We needed two incomes, but I wasn't able to work, so credit kept us going. By the end of the year, we were so burnt out, we decided to take a holiday. I was also having a lot of trouble with Christmas coming up (I've noticed that a few people here have the same problem with holidays) and my birthday is a couple of days after Christmas, and it's just as bad. So we decided to take a break and go to Fiji. We were going to take a trip somewhere in Australia, but the fares were cheaper to go overseas! So we thought it would be a good idea. But soon we had spent over $10,000 without even noticing. Nathan's parents have drilled into him that owing money is bad, and most people would agree, but he feels a different kind of pressure to most people because he has only just started to see his parents as "people" and not just Mum and Dad, so it still upsets him that he is in this position and that it disappoints them. It's tough on Nath, because he didn't ask for any of this. I don't think he knew how far down the rabbit hole goes with PTSD, and how much it impacts on daily life. I feel like I have let him down by being so weak and unable to contribute. We're both having trouble coping with the fact that even if it was too much for Nath, or for us, and we decided it wasn't working out, that we wouldn't be able to leave each other because we couldn't afford to make the repayments seperately. We're trying to find ways to get out of this debt, but for the moment, it just looks like a long, long road.