I don't know you, but I wanted to send you my best wishes & all the positive vibes to all of you.

My MIL (now in remission, touch wood) had cancer. My FIL & SIL both have mental illnesses so it came down to my husband & me to be the main support (not that we minded, but it is stressful).

It goes without saying that it's awful (understatement) for the patient, but it's important for the carers to look after themselves too.

I can relate to the feeling of helplessness. My advice is to give Evie all the support you can, but to take time out for yourself & and as a couple. Balance & all that.

Good luck & take care.