Guys, those were awesome responses, I have alot to think about. Becvan, thank you very much for your no-nonsense approach...that's exactly what I was looking for. Some of your points I feel are dead on, others I don't know about yet. Again, though, I'm not threatening my wife with anything, all of this is for our children's sake. My wife has input too, maybe is she ever decides to post she will give hers. She really is an amazing woman, and she has done alot and deserves some serious credit. Of course, its hard to give kudos when you are upset...

Thanks again everyone, I'll be around.