Very well said Wendy.

Fatherof3, have you ever considered going to Al-Anon? It is a group primarily made up of spouses of heavy drinkers and alcoholics. It has nothing to do with PTSD, however it may personally help YOU in living with someone whose drinking is obviously out of control. Al-Anon teaches a person to care for themselves and their loved ones and not enable the drinker. It is free as well, and there are meetings everywhere. I believe you would be most welcome there, and would receive some of the much-needed support you require.