Kathy,

I do sometimes nag- what wife doesn't? And yes, an errand and the dish loading, are great examples of the type of 'help' around the house that makes my responsibilities more bearable.

Once upon a time, he used the c* word infront of me referring to a woman who cut us off while driving. I was offended and told him that I considered it the worst thing you could call a woman and asked that he not use the word if front of me. Well, it's gotten to the point where he uses it against me as easily as the word 'stupid' or 'a**hole'. Both of which I don't like and he may not mean them but I can tolerate them.

The other thing I don't get is that while he may not be able to deal with stress at all, he has no problem going out and buying the newest xbox game and staying up all night playing. It like he can't handle anything and from what I'm reading of PTSD his lifestyle needs to be in permanent 'vacation mode' ??? At least that's what I would consider it. And not I;m reading that the condition is not cureable- so I've got a 200 lb toddler to take care of the rest of my life??

I love him, but he treats me like crap, no sex, I do all the work and he gets to sit back and relax?? What kind of life is that for me?