hello Andrea.. I'm sorry things are so hard for you. I'm know a bit about what you are going through from seeing almost the same stuff in a round about way. Although I didn't deal with the situation personally I do know it won't get better fast and easy. If living the way you are right now is damaging you to much emotionally and physically then you need to consider yourself first. You can't MAKE the person change while still enabling them to continue on the way things are. What are the bounderys you need to in your life to be able to continue on this way? The name calling seems to be a huge thing. So I agree with Kathy.. start there. Don't argue about it with him.. let him know straight out what will happen if he calls you a bad name. Decide for yourself what you will do.. even if its something like go spend the night in a hotel room if he starts name calling. Don't sit and get in a fight with him while he is yelling and upset.. just go! or do whatever it is you decide you will do if this happens. He has learned he can get away with it.. and so will continue to do it if there are no set rules.

We are here to give advice when we can! just sometimes we can't give a definate answer only offer support and a place to vent... we do understand but every situation is different. Sometimes people need to take some time and think about what they want to say to respond also! Don't feel like no one is out here! we are and we care!