I know I cannot work on anyone's issues but my own. However, I call myself 'superwoman' because I feel that I am able to handle just about anything that comes along- at least up to this point.

I don't want to fix him and I know I can't but I do want to and am able to provide an environment where he can focus on himself without having to worry about the stress associated with working, paying bills or running a whole household! I am trying to provide a stable secure foundation from which he can work on his problems. However, I do want him to be trying to work on them.

Why am I trying to provide this environment for him? Because I love him and I know what it's like to have to work through tough issues by yourself, supporting yourself with no help. I love him and I can do it for him but I want to be respected and treated kindly, not slapped in the face.