I am delighted you feel comfortable here Dan, and so you should! People really do care, this is a good place, for you, and also for your wife should she decide to visit sometime. I am pleased you are speaking openly with her, talking is very important and will only help.

That is good that you don't enable her. Simply for your information, here are some examples of enabling a heavy drinker or alcoholic:

• your partner comes home drunk and makes a huge mess. you clean up the mess before they awaken in the morning so they don't see what havoc they have caused whilst drunk.
• your partner has a hangover headache and you and the children are purposely very quiet and otherwise cater to your partner.
• your partner doesn't want to go to work because of drinking the night before. you call her boss for her, lying and saying she is ill.
• your partner was supposed to come home for the evening meal however does not show up. you postpone dinner and everyone is hungry and upset.

And so on.. you get the idea.