about the messy house.. I totally understand!! can't pick stuff up or wash dishes fast enough before more is messy again! I tend to find doing just ONE thing helps.. spend one day just doing dishes then stop.. knowing you got that done at least! Then spend the next day doing laundry or something. Also not sure how old the kids are but give them jobs to do! Its funny how even the little ones love helping with the dishes even if its just drying them as you put them away. Also try making it fun to pick up! turn on some music.. make a game of picking up the rooms dancing around and laughing. Its amazing sometimes how you can use the children's boundless energy and make it something like a stress relief game!

Hope things get better for you.. life as a single parent can be hard even without other stress involved.