I know its not alwase good to keep things in and let them build up.. but sometimes people need that time to sort stuff out in there heads first before going to someone to talk. With a death in the family I think this might be more so then when its something else that happens. I would just talk normal day to day stuff.. and be ready if and when he does break down and cry/talk or whatever. Just don't let it go on for months and months sort of thing! I do think in general guys deal with issues different them females.. they are brought up and taught to be strong and not show emotion. Hang in there and make sure to do what you can for yourself too!