I will add my 2 cents too. First don't just ask one person, it is a mistake as we all heal differently. That is the beauty of this community and so many here, you get all angles as what works for one does not others. You have to get to the same idea, just there are at times different routes.

I had to get down to admitting my anger and what caused it. When I did accept fear, betrayal, lonely... And the like I saw what emotions I had to work on and accept. I had to accept guilt and blame where needed and put blame exactly where it belonged when it was not my own.

This place does wonders as you put out your story, but more important your feelings of it out there. Others can put it in different perspectives you may have never thought but it is entirely correct for you.