I have wanted to add this for some time now, and finally had some time to quickly draw this up to present. The following image outlines a little further than the basic iceberg, showing how we have our emotional responses, yet between our emotions is a cause to neglect our true emotions. This list is an example, by no means definitive. You could spend days coming up with reasons and emotions that block us all uniquely, though you must adapt this to yourself.

If you do these things, you can find your method to help yourself overcome your anger. If you don't understand your anger, then how can you fix it? You can't, hence why I am outlining this a little further.

Three main components to self analysis:

1. Your current emotional response
2. What is blocking your true emotions
3. Your actual true emotions felt

Now #3 your not going to know likely just yet, though the idea is to work from the top down, thus you will understand why you are failing to show, feel or talk about your true emotions.

Emotional Responses

These are typically anger, rage, frustration, violence, etc. If you "respond" then it is an emotional response. You do not respond if you feel guilty. Guilt would be the emotion, anger or avoidance could be the emotional response.

The Gap or Void Between Emotion - Emotional Response

This is typically social pressures, fear of being portrayed as weak if you cry, what others may think off you, male pride, prejudice, and the list goes on.

Emotions

See the list: List of Emotions and Emotional Responses



To fix something you must first understand it. If you fail to understand the problem, then how the hell could one fix it? I hope this for all concerned to understand their problem uniquely.