Great advice Kathy and She-Cat both. :) Thank you so much.

It seems to me that I just need to be patient (so hard to be alone and cutoff and be patient!) and let her stay in control of the situation. As tough as that is, and it will be very tough since I see her everyday, the last thing Iwant to do is push her away.

I guess I really want her to use this time the most effectively. It is hard to sit here on this information and think that she might be focusing on the wrong things and in the wrong areas. She may not realize at all that this is what is going on...it would be a shame for her to struggle with all these things when the answer is right here. You know?

It is frustrating, but I resign myself to just being patient, continueing to learn here and other places and hopefully she will come back to me and I will be in a better position to help her.

I'm dealing with being alone and a custody battle and an uncomfortable living situation so I have a lot to take care of myself. It sucks because she was a great source of strength for me and losing her has made it even more difficult. In that regard it is hard to look after myself while simultaneously reeling from the loss. I realize that me having these issues also contributed to her feeling of being overwhelmed.

It's as bad as watching my 4 year old try to figure something out for himself. I so desperately want to show him, but know that he needs to do it on his own. Frustrating. :)