Thank you for your reply Damiea, I was so much waiting for someone to reply but have to say I feel a bit intimidated now. If I would know what to do I would not have asked for advise. This is my first try with something like this. Many people on this forum seem to be so strong and know exactly what is right or wrong, I wish I would. I am also very inexperienced with dealing with someone with PTSD and in my environment there is also noone who ever dealt with someone who went through a war experience (Thank God!), so I just hoped there might be people out there who would understand. My hope was also to maybe hear from others who have similar experiences and might want to share...
But of course I understand your point of view, it is just so difficult sometimes...Thank you for your interest and time!