Im not in your situation Umus, but I am married, and Im in the military. This guy takes your money, cheats on you with several women, then gets help and uses PTSD as an excuse for how he acted? Sorry but thats just bullshit IMHO. If you love him, want to be with him eventually, thats cool, but dont cut him any slack. Let him get better on his own. You need a break too and esp. after everything hes done he should accept that and take his lumps.