Thank you, at the moment I am reading, reading, reading and learning a lot. At the moment all quiet on his side, after I confronted him with a few things that upset me and make me feel miserable. But that is normal, he can never deal with someone elses problems. Thats why all your inputs help ME for once! Still not sure if it was a good idea to blame him when he is in the middle of treatment, but I just could not help it! There is the guilt-thing again...