Hi Andrea,

Welcome to the forum. Yep, wouldn't worry about attending your husbands doctor with him, as Anthony said it will be more likely to get the 'real' perspective on how things are. They can be mean buggers and downright hurtful when they have a mind to, or perhaps not a mind to. Its bs to tell you not to take it to heart because that is generally exactly where it hits. The best advice I can give you is to politely put him in his place if he is being an ass (and he will be) to you, get some counselling for yourself and take some time out for you. You can only support him, you cannot fix him. Don't make the mistake of thinking that you can. He has to want to heal himself and no amount of wanting on your behalf can make that happen. Please keep posting on this forum and keep us updated, its early days but at least he has started treatment..........thats a step in the right direction.