Hi Anthony I think I am feeling a bit guilty that I just dont seem to be caring about him as I should. We have been married 25 years and he is not going to bring me down with him. I have had to take control of OUR life and to me keeping a roof over our head is pretty important. He doesnt seem to want to help himself it is wearing a bit thin no motivation wont keep counsellor appointments. I am pushing him to join the Healthy Heart program but all I can do is enrol him into it. He has to want to get out of bed to go I cant physically drag him there even though he makes me so cranky I think I would find the strength to carry him myself.