When a sufferer is at the worst point, stability is probably best. Keep things exactly the same. Our mind can be is such turmoil that if everything outside our minds stay the same, than normacy seems like it can be reached. When I was going through hell, my husband stayed by me through it all, and our love has grown stronger because of it. I don't know what it's like to have a loved one go through ptsd, but it has to be difficult. Express yourself on the ptsd spouse/partner part of this forum and it might bring some relief to know that you are not alone. I hope the best for you and your hub.