Hello again all, sorry I've been away for a week or more but it's been a bit crazy around here. Wife and I have not communicated in about a week, except by email and text message, after I just about blew up and said I couldn't stand the hostility any more, and wanted a separation, by which I meant time to cool off and again perspective. Not clear what she wants or what our plans are but it's actually been peaceful being alone, better than feeling rejected all the time. I started with a new therapist for myself- too early to tell if he's the right person- but it feels like we're so far apart that we're either going to get unstuck from the pattern, or break apart, and frankly, either is better than the way things were before. I'll keep you posted.

J