I know kerrie-ann will find the words for this when she reads it again, but she put the kicking boots on with me and got me going again. When I retired, she was pregnant from memory, so it was still just her and me, thus I could be more lazy I guess, and get away with it, because I didn't have children to manage each day.

I know she got me motivated enough at those times when I was down, and here I am today. It isn't going to happen overnight, but it will happen.

From memory, as a spouse, you need to get tricky. You need to find things they are interested in, book them, and take them too it. Yes, this is baby sitting to a point, but it is your suggestive way of helping them help themselves. Once they are out and functioning, return and marvel at such the wonderful time they had, that is the appropriate time in which you would say something like, "well, if you didn't sleep all day, then you could do more off this" or words to that effect. So, you make them some more bookings to get them out, except now you start minimizing your effort and let them go do it on their own.

In other sneaky methods, if you don't know exactly what is interesting them this week, then you sneakily bring it up in discussion about any current interests, then you sneakily once again just make those things happen, then let them do all the work after they ravel in enjoyment. These little tactics from spouses can be a treat for both, as it gets them out of bed and active, is a little extra for spouses at the time, though then you both get your time together, time apart, and your spouse is now up and about, more active, and wanting to do more things, especially with you the partner.

I believe kerrie was very sneaky in her approaches with me, because she got me out of the exact same situation that your spouses are currently in, being depressed and sleeping our lives away. When you think all else has failed... get sneaky.