From the work I am doing with Evie offline, honestly it has little to do with the forum. It has to do with Brians death. Evie is masking it behind other issues, she reads something on the forum, a masking issue as such, then rages with that issue, then calms and says something as simple as, "I miss Brian" at the end. From my knowledge of all these events to date since Brians death, this has been the same pattern with the same ending.

I believe it would be quite a hard topic to discuss at home, hell I know it was when my brother died. Mum wouldn't allow us to speak about it in front of her, we had to talk away from her. We could praise him, but not say anything bad about some of his actions or life. That was mum's way of dealing with it. Even to this day, 18 years on, we still not dare say anything bad about some of the things he had done in her company, otherwise all hell can and usually will break loose.

I guess for the most of us we talked about it, mum didn't. I believe my suffering was that it took me 17 years to cry again, since his death. I guess we all deal with things in different ways is my point, Evie's is this way to express some of her pain towards Brians death. Now knowing what she knows about her family tree, she no longer just lost a cousin. Her entire perspective has changed from what I can judge, and changing even more daily as she fully comprehends her new found knowledge. It makes many issues better, though this one seems to be quite the opposite.

I do not know how much Brians death is discussed between you all Kathy, only you could tell me that. All I can tell you, is Evie has a lot of anger towards it and she is finding masking reasons to release it the only way she knows... rage.