Kathy, I dare say you and my mother would understand one another perfectly surrounding this. I wish she would talk about it, still so many years on, she is not the same person. Let me just say this, sex stopped between her and my father when Greg died. I only know this because dad told me. That is the level it affects, and then the affects of their relationship issues because of his death are constantly ongoing. A lot doesn't get said, but should, in my parents household. From what I can tell, ignorance is certainly not bliss in those situations.

Well done for realization Kathy, I know Evie is pretty happy about the decision.