I have to agree with everything everyone has said here in relation to talking about what has happened and processing the feelings of sadness, loss, anger and whatever else you feel.

Like Anthony has said, and I have seen myself first hand, ignorance destroys more than it helps and no matter what, it does eventually come back to 'bite you on the bum' in a more detrimental way than if you had grieved properly in the first place.

Warmest thoughts to you Jim, Kathy, Evie,Travis and your family.