Marilyn, look at the last post in The Iceberg of Emotions for a better understanding of anger regarding emotions. I have expanded the original content of that thread recently.

Now, without following the past with a bombardment of posts and PM's, please elaborate on the feeling of shame please. What makes you feel shame, in that what do you own within this feeling?

Do you feel shame because you where abused?
Do you feel shame telling your abuse?
Do you feel shame because you feel its your fault in some way?

Again, I will read and respond when I have time... lets please not resurrect past behaviour thanks.