Ok Marilyn, there is a difference in thinking for others though and actually knowing what others think. Your using a negative thinking style to think for others, ie. people will avoid you, despise you, reject you. That is not actually true at all, otherwise you would be rejected by your husband. So immediately you have not been rejected by "everybody" or the like, which is an all or nothing thinking style, over-generalization thinking style.

Ok, the mud is a good explanation actually, though here is the truth to the matter. You have been abused Marilyn, nothing you do or say can change that now. You must accept that this has happened. The difference here though is that you continue to bring your past to your present by using these negative thinking styles, instead of pushing them out of your life and changing your thinking styles to more positive one's.

Only you can change you. Are you waiting for someone to do the work for you?