I cannot believe that i have found this site this week and already i feel like so many people care...it is amazing and i apologize for not being too active in posting and replying in other forums...im getting the hang of it though and hopefully with time i am able to help someone...give them advise from the things that i have learned and what has worked for myself and my husband. Thank you all for your caring words and advice... it means the world to me to understand better and be able to help someone i love. Its hard and it will continue to be hard at times im sure....but in the end it will be all worth it.