hello, I just thought that I would add my own personal experiences/feelings about this issue. You are definitely not alone at being irritated that your partner doesn't actively contribute to your life together. Trust me, at times the fact that my partner doesn't work grinds on my nerves like you wouldn't believe. Especially because I was going to uni and now my job network is pushing me to get a full time job instead of returning to my studies... becasue apparently having two kids under two and studying is not enough; one of us in the house has to work! This annoys me also becasue even if I did get a full time job like they want me to, if Alex had a bad day then I woud have to take a day off anyway to look after the kids- but my job network doesn't care about that. Apparently, Alex has to wait to get permission from his psyche before he can try to return to work. Unfortunately though, he never seems to get a psyche who will say to give it a go. To me this is absolutely ridiculous, but thats the way the system works I guess. The only difference between you and I is that my partner actually helps around the house a fair bit. DOn't get me wrong sometimes he does absollutely nothing but most of the time he helps out so much, which gives me a chance to relax a bit and enjoy my children. Have you ever tried talking to him about it when he is having a "good day"? I must admit though that no matter how annoyed I am with him at times, I find it usually fades and I can live with it agian- I don't like it but I live with it! Hopefully you and yourr partner are just having a bad patch and you will be able to live with it again soon... If not, that's what we are here for. I sincerely hope things get better for you.