OK, I am a person with a mental illness but I do not have dependent personality. If anything, look at the criteria for borderline personality. I have made it on my own and do now. I do not need my husband to survive. I have ajob and a way to make a living. I made it through school and am currently working on my masters degree. I am NOT dependent. The only criteria I meet for dependency is criteria 3-4-5. I raised two little girls without the help of a man. I didn't meet my current husband until I was divorced for 2 1/2 years. I'm a lot of things but I'm not dependent. Stupid may be but not dependent. Ya know, MOM was right. I am a stupid little idiot for spilling my guts.