I still do not have much to say in here; I seem to only have the ability to post in this thread every few days. It is still exceedingly painful for me. However I did want to thank you Bec for that confirmation. Yes it was a shocking statement, the whole family was quite stunned and hurt by it. It is comforting to know we are not the only ones who felt the statement was inappropriate. Sometimes in one's grief it is difficult to tell if one is overreacting or not.

You are absolutely correct Bec; no one deserves life more than another. Some of us are just more fortunate it seems, regardless of the choices we make. I suppose that is part of the mystery of life; there are no answers as to why you, Matt and Evie are alive, whereas Brian is dead. I truly wish there were answers, but not knowing the reasons for things is part of what I must accept.

It is peculiar how badly our society deals with death in general. Truly, all that is needed is to say, "sorry for your loss", or, "you have my sympathies". However people always want to fix things, or explain the death away, or place blame, and so on.

In any event, thank you for the support Bec, it is most appreciated.