I'm new to this forum, actually, I'm new to any kind of forum. I've never really needed to talk to anyone because I've always had friends or family with similar situations and was able to talk to them. I've found myself in a rut, though, and I'm not sure what to do. I've dating my fiance for over 2 years now. We met 6 months before he left for training for the war. I fell in love as did he and this past December when he came home for his 2 week leave from Iraq he proposed. I was the happiest I had ever been in a long time as was he. Sure, we had our fights, but that's to be expected when the person you love is thousands of miles away and the only way of communication is phone, internet, and letters. He just returned home in July after a 3 month extension and things seemed to be pretty much the same. Until this last month.

I noticed that he was acting really distant and that he wasn't as emotional as he had been. He was extremely irritable, trouble falling asleep and then awaking numerous times at night. He's also moody and just this last week he told me that he was basically numb to his emotions. That's when we started falling apart. He told me he didn't know if he loved me anymore and that he didn't know why he was feeling like he was. I fell apart and we met the following day and he said he was just stressed about finding a house and a job before getting married this December. We decided to push the wedding back which was fine and it seemed like things were looking up. We were just going to take things slow and go from there, no pressure of marriage, finding a house right away, or a job.

Then just two nights ago he told me yet again that he thought his feelings had changed for me. I fell apart yet again and told him we need to talk in person. He came over the next night and we talked and as of right now we're not together. He says he has no desire for a relationship right now. He told me numerous times that it wasn't me, that it was something to do with him. He has no explanation as to why his feelings are as they are. When I asked him if it was just me he had no feelings for anymore, he said no. He said the only person he felt close to at all was his dad and I think that's because his dad can relate because he too spent time in Iraq, 3 years before and knows what he's going through.

After talking to his family and friends, some say they think he has PTSD and others thinks he just needs time to hang out with the guys and be a kid. Last night a friend of his and mine called and said they had talked to him and that he said he might've just made a huge mistake. I don't know what to do. I'm afraid that if I just wait around that in a few months he'll say he made a mistake and that he does love me...of course I'll want him back, I love him, but what about if he changes his mind again? I can't go through this again. I have done nothing but cry every time I hear a song or see his picture or just think about the situation. I have grown so close to him and his family and I love them and it hurts to know that I may never be with him again. He hasn't talked to a doctor yet, he's very stubborn. My only sign of hope is that last night when I said he needed to talk to someone, he said he really thought he needed to, also. And that maybe that would fix things between us. I can only hope because my heart is crushed and I don't know what to do. Any advice would be great