Welcome to the forum msktay, lovely to have you. Though I am in Canada rather than the USA, I am the member of a military family, and sadly your story is all too common. The Canadian military only started taking PTSD truly seriously in 2001, and in spite of the introduction of the MFRCs to assist military families, there still remains much room for improvement. Much stigma is still attached to personnel with this illness. This is where you unfortunately must step up and become an advocate for your husband. Learn as much as you can not only about PTSD but also about how your particular "system" works, fight it, never give up!

The situation with your children is particularly unfortunate. As a social worker by profession I do understand the need to protect the children, since your husband has become violent. That is not something that should be ignored or taken lightly. However, it does seem rather extreme that CPS will take them even if he is in the same state, whilst the two of you are separated. Again, as I am not in the USA I cannot advise you specifically, but I would recommend you learn as much as you can regarding your rights and obligations. Is there a family resource centre on the base, or any kind of advocacy programs for families that you are aware of? That would be the place to start.

And as far as PTSD, as Bec mentioned, this forum is an excellent place to learn and receive support, both for you and your husband. I cannot even begin to describe the wonderful things this forum has done for our family. All you need do is read and read some more, apply the tools that seem pertinent to your situation, interact with others, ask questions, and you will be amazed at the changes and what you learn. Do take care, I look forward to chatting with you more.