Wow-I can unfortunately look at that question in more than one way.
The one that frightens me the most, is that I have a "fear and flight" mechanism that is extremely easy to trigger, when interacting with men.
The relationship I have with my husband is one of fear. Some of his interactions remind me of my childhood abuser. I am not affectionate with him, and it bothers him greatly.
I am affectionate with my son (hugs and kisses), but I am truly afraid of the day when my "fear and flight" kicks in with him too. Maybe it won't, but it is a thought in the back of my mind when disciplining him for his behavior or whatever reason. I am afraid that I will not be able to give him the neccesary affection every mom should give her son. It is a daily concern of mine.
So, does it affect our relationship. I would have to vote yes.
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