Jen, I may be wrong, but I think that this can be common in some marriages, and whether or not there is a person with PTSD or not involved.
I'm the one with PTSD in my marriage. My husb. is not, and yet I know that we both feel this way, and with us often, and we're nervous that each other is going to unneccessarily critisize and/or correct the other. With this same issue and taken less than serious, on the part of both of us and simult., we both have progressively lost some trust in one another and confidence within ourselves.
IMHO, these feelings really needs to be respected and taken seriously.
With my husb. and I, and this same issue of ours and our feelings, ......left either abundant, (as in my case) or briefly examined and often denied, (as in his case) ............the two of us have previously grown super-sensitive toward this type of thing and each other, and for now for sometime.
I encourge you Jen to address and honor your feelings, ..those feelings.., and with your husb. before anything 'less than constructive' progresses and becomes a much larger issue.
Jen, when you said,
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Originally Posted by Jen  You know I just take it and dont usually say anything back if he gets upset he gets sick and we cant afford that to happen! |
I find it personally helpful. It helps me, as the one in my family with PTSD, to identify what it is my husb. has been trying to get across to me for sometime now and simply put that is that he is afraid that I am going to get sick,........and so forth.
It's not getting any prettier with us either, and with him having been previously too willing to back down and deny his feelings to accomodate me and us.
Jen, please take care.