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Originally Posted by tiffany  I wasn't nagging him, or starting arguments, things like that. He likes this me, the person I was when we first met. Maybe he feels like he's missed out on things with his friends. Maybe that's why he's pushing me away (combined with the PTSD...his appointment for evaluation is October 12!) |
To be honest tiffany, if you had been nagging and arguing with him a great deal, and he
does have PTSD, that is a recipe for disaster and he would likely be pulling away from you as a result. Many with PTSD simply cannot take much conflict and criticism. Remember that a person with PTSD is already in a pretty much constant state of stress, so any added stress, especially of the negative kind, is only going to make things worse for them. So they will tend to avoid anything, or anyone, who adds to that stress. Have you read Anthony's article about the PTSD cup? It explains things rather well:
The PTSD Cup Explanation
Well done though on your change of attitude towards him. It seems to be working a bit? I hope it continues! I certainly do hope things work out well, for both your sakes. Best to keep the lines of communication open. Hopefully things will be much clearer for you both after the assessment.