Dear Kathy,
Regarding your post about what you called the insensitive comment posted here (one thing first, I do believe that if that is how you view t you are entitled to that POV) however I may be able to defend that comment to some degree. I am not saying that you shouldn't be upset by it, or the rest of your family for some matter, but perhaps the person who posted that comment meant it only to make Evie feel better. In Evie's post you mentioned earlier on, she does seem to feel really guilty about it 'not being her'. Perhaps the person who posted it was just trying to make her feel a little about better about herself and trying to decrease the amount of guilt she apeared to be feeling at the time. I am not saying it was the right thing to say but maybe that persn had good intentions at the time... Again I am not saying that you shouldn't feel incensed at the statement as I probably would be as well. I am sorry for your entire fmily at the loss of Brian. and I will post a poem shortly that may help you to grieve. I just hae to go and find it. It helped me a great deal when my grandmother passed away.