Thanks heaps for the replies. I am just trying to get my head around the whole situation. I have no idea as to the doctors qualifications and experience until we go to the appt this Thursday, but I will be sure to ask now. I looked up a little about this form of therapy and it seems ok to me and Alex is willing to give it a go for now. We received a call from MCRS, who are in the process of reinstating our payments the other day, and they told ALex he can either accept the $50 per fortnight or he can accept a lump sum of $64000. Alex got off the phone all excited and when I asked him questions like 'does that interfere with your Comsuper payments?', 'is tat what they consider to be the lump sum payment/ compensation amount for you having PTSD?', and questions that I felt were fairly important, he got all snakey with me and eventually yelled at me that he didn't know, he didn't ask! I was just trying to understand what this amount was for, but all Alex could think of was having this money.

And no I don't pressure or nag him to get a job but I have asked him on occassion whether he tinks he ever will- he only ever reponds with 'I don't ****ing know!'. I have supported him and stood by him the whole time we have been together and even when he was still a member of the army he was very rarely at work anyway, cos they didn't know what to do with him andit was easier for them not to have to deal with it.
Lately though, things have been grinding on my nerves a little. I asked him if hewanted to go and get a copy of his birth certificate (the army apparently lost the original) so we could get the driving rules bok for down here and he practically bit my head off and told me that with his PTSD he wouldn't be able to drive anyway. I tried my best to say to him in a nice way, well how would you know you have never tried it, and that didn't go down well either. I am just so sick of driving around all the time. Not only to his Dr appt's and the kids doctors appt's, and running all the errands with two kids hanging off my side every where I go; But Alex has this idea about starting a business of sorts (which I think more resembles a garage sale) where he will be buying boxes of sundries from an auctions house, each box contains about 20-25 items; Alex wants to then sell these items as seperate items at the auction house and whatever doesn't sell there, try to get rid of at a garage sale. I am behind in this idea, not because I find it particularly interesting, but because he does and keeps his mind occupied. It is starting to annoy me though, because now I have to drive him to and from the auction house (with the two boys) at least once a week; and now he wants to start going to garage sales on Saturday mornings, but he wants to leave the house by 6 am. I find this annoying because I have to get up, get the boys ready, and drive around after him all day while he chain smokes in the passenger seat and gets annoyed when all the driving stresses me!!!
I tell him though that if he wants to this in the long term he is going to have to get himself a licence, so that the kids dont have to be out and about that early- I mean it is really cold down here at midday, so six am it is just ridiculous! Also, I have centrelink on my back to find work, which I wouldn't particularly mind but Alex says things like 'what if I have a bad day, what are we going to do then'? SO I am being pressured by them to find full time work because according tothem at least one of us should be working, and they wont listen when I tell them that it would be rude to stuff the employer around like that. Once the boys start school, not a problem, But they simply do not understand the nature of the beast I guess. Anyway enough of my rambling on and on, It's just so good to be able to chat to someone as I have no friends down here, only Alex's family and if I tried to talk to my family about it we would just end up arguing! SO thanks for listening to me bitch and I really do appreciate the input.