My experience is quite opposite of what you describe, SP. And my situation was very much at one time as she described hers. She like many carers here are looking how to help those they love and without being drug under. It is hard but possible.

Do you have any advice? You are calling someone you do not know based on a paragraph or two an enabler when she is wanting to speak to other spouses who understand.

And to disagree with Mortis' post. What do you disagree with? That he has been suffering for 20 years? Are you saying that he has chosen to suffer? People have to learn what works for them to feel better. Judging from your other postings you seem to lean heavily on the drinking. Do you understand there is a lot more to this than just a drinking problem?

As Kathy asked, please let us know what your experience is with PTSD carer or sufferer. We look forward to your intro thread.