thanks Anthony.
The dr did say he has only ever heard of one case where the EMDR didnt work. The dr who performed it was trained by Dr Shapira, but he used another drs notes instead of talking ot the patient first hand. He said the patient ended up having a psychotic break and was in hospital for a week, and then finished the treatment after the dr did his own observations. He said apart from that he has never heard of it not working. Like I told Alex I think it worth a try. He still hasnt made up his mind but he still has three and a half weeks to do that. SO here's hoping it all goes well.

And thanks heaps for the support everyone, I really do appreciate knowing I not just an interfering bitch...