Welcome to the forum Neela, it is lovely to have you. I apologize for not welcoming you sooner, however I have been frightfully busy, then away, and now it is Thanksgiving weekend here in Canada!

I agree with Tammy in that there will always be ups and downs. PTSD is a permanent condition; there is no cure at present. However, sufferers can learn to manage themselves quite nicely, though it takes much time and effort on their part. We as carers can support them in their efforts, but they must want to change and heal on their own. In your case, the first step would be for your boyfriend to get assessed and diagnosed, and begin some sort of therapy. All you can do is encourage him in that, learn as much about PTSD as you can, and be certain to take care of yourself as well. Be very certain this is the life you want for yourself, as it is a permanent condition. If you stay with him, you are in it for the long haul, as my husband says.

I well understand the statement "less of a marine". My husband is career military, though now retired, and 3 of my sons are in the military as well. Unfortunately for the most part, the military do not support our men when it comes to PTSD. Here in Canada PTSD is still considered a major stigma and a sign of weakness in military culture. That is changing though not quickly enough. It would likely be helpful for your boyfriend to attend some sort of support group for vets, and hear the experiences of others, so he realizes he is not alone. Once again however, it will need to be his decision entirely.

All the best to you Neela, do please keep coming here, there is much support to be had and much good information as well. Take good care.