Black and white thinking perhaps? Sorry Evie. Thank you Anthony, we have been trying to explain the concept of destiny to Evie for some time. Your explanation is quite good. I do hope it helps her.

Today is Thanksgiving, and it's our first Thanksgiving without Brian. I was expecting to be quite upset, however I am calm and almost cheerful. Jim and I were away together for a lovely weekend, and I have returned home to discover that the children are preparing the Thanksgiving meal for me, I have absolutely no work to do. The children have also organized a kitchen party in Brian's honour, which we will have this evening. A kitchen party is a traditional Newfoundland affair, family and friends pile into the kitchen and play musical instruments, sing, dance, and in some cases get drunk! Most of my family plays an instrument so it should be lovely. We have not had a kitchen party since Brian's wake.

Whilst in the city this weekend I purchased a grief workbook which looks quite interesting. I believe I will start doing some of the exercises in it, possibly with Evie. Not certain about Jim as he is not a fan of that sort of thing. In any event, this long weekend I am surrounded by my children and grandchildren and I do feel quite blessed to have them all.