Thank-you both Tammy & Kathy for responding.

Here's an update. This past weekend he pretty much did the same thing and called me upset over the fact that I left him alone. There were the usual accusations. The difference this time around - I actually put my food down and told him exactly of I felt. That of course didn't make him happy and he hung up on me. I thought for sure we were done, but he actually called me back. I wasn't able to respond straight away, because I was still very upset. I called him back when I was calm (something I learned to do before I met him) and we talked. It was a good talk. He's acknowledged the fact that he has issues he needs to work on and he wants to work through them with me. He's actually taking the initiative and has set up an appointment with the VA people. Needless to say this is a positive step.

Kathy - You're totally right about needing to be certain that this is the life I want. We did talk about that and he used the same phrase your husband used - "you're in it for the long haul". Regardless of what may happen (and I've read some posts here that have made me very aware of what could possibly happen), I can't imagine my life without him. It's definitely like Tammy mentioned earlier - it can be total hell when he's one of his moods. But when he's in a good mood, he's absolutely beautiful.